At REAL Relationships, we take a comprehensive approach to relational health—one that integrates prevention, education, accountability, and the possibility of transformation.

Rather than reacting only when harm becomes visible, we help communities build a shared understanding of what healthy relationships look like and how to respond when concerns arise.

A Prevention-First Framework

Prevention begins with clarity.

We help organizations and churches:

  • Define healthy, respectful, and safe relational behaviors

  • Establish shared language around boundaries and responsibility

  • Recognize early warning signs of unhealthy dynamics

  • Reduce harm before it escalates

When people understand what is healthy, they are better equipped to notice when something is not.

Trauma-Informed and Leadership-Supportive

Our approach recognizes that relational harm affects people differently and that leaders often carry the weight of complex decisions.

Training is designed to:

  • Reduce fear and confusion around difficult conversations

  • Support leaders rather than overwhelm them

  • Avoid shame-based or fear-driven responses

  • Prioritize safety while maintaining dignity

This allows leaders to respond with confidence rather than avoidance.

Accountability That Leads to Change

Addressing harm requires more than awareness or care alone.

REAL Relationships helps communities develop clear accountability pathways that:

  • Name harmful behavior without labeling or public shaming

  • Place responsibility on the person causing harm

  • Establish clear expectations and boundaries

  • Include mentoring, oversight, and follow-through

  • Measure change by behavior, not promises

Accountability is not punishment—it is a necessary structure for transformation.

Supporting All Involved—Without Enabling Harm

Our approach holds two truths at the same time:

  • Those who are harmed deserve protection, support, and voice

  • Those who cause harm must be confronted with clarity and responsibility

We do not rush reconciliation, minimize impact, or use spiritual language to bypass accountability. Healing happens when safety, truth, and responsibility are held together