REAL Relationships exists to help individuals, churches, and organizations build healthy relationships that prevent harm and support lasting change.
Many communities care deeply about people, yet feel unprepared to recognize unhealthy relational patterns or respond effectively when harm occurs. REAL Relationships was created to bridge that gap—by providing education, training, and practical frameworks that strengthen safety, accountability, and relational health at every level.
Our work is prevention-focused, trauma-informed, and accountability-centered. We believe that healthy relationships can be taught, harmful patterns can be interrupted, and real transformation is possible when responsibility, support, and clear boundaries are present.
Our Philosophy
We believe:
Healthy relationships are learned, not assumed
Prevention is more effective than crisis response alone
Safety must always come first
Accountability is essential for real change
Supporting those who are harmed and confronting harmful behavior are not opposing goals
Transformation requires more than awareness—it requires structure, mentoring, and follow-through
REAL Relationships approaches relational harm with clarity and compassion, without minimizing impact or avoiding responsibility.
Experience That Informs the Work
REAL Relationships is led by someone who brings both professional training and lived experience navigating complex relational dynamics within families, faith communities, and organizations.
This combination allows our work to be practical, grounded, and deeply aware of the real-world challenges leaders face—especially when addressing sensitive issues that carry emotional, spiritual, and relational weight.
We understand the fear of “getting it wrong,” the pressure leaders feel to protect their communities, and the difficulty of addressing harmful behavior without creating division. Our role is to support leaders through that complexity—not to shame or undermine them.
Who We Serve
Churches and faith-based organizations
Pastors, elders, and leadership teams
Businesses and professional organizations
Individuals and families seeking healthier relational patterns
Across all settings, our goal is the same: to equip people with the clarity, confidence, and tools needed to build relationships rooted in safety, respect, and accountability.
At REAL Relationships, we take a comprehensive approach to relational health—one that integrates prevention, education, accountability, and the possibility of transformation.
Rather than reacting only when harm becomes visible, we help communities build a shared understanding of what healthy relationships look like and how to respond when concerns arise.
A Prevention-First Framework
Prevention begins with clarity.
We help organizations and churches:
Define healthy, respectful, and safe relational behaviors
Establish shared language around boundaries and responsibility
Recognize early warning signs of unhealthy dynamics
Reduce harm before it escalates
When people understand what is healthy, they are better equipped to notice when something is not.
Trauma-Informed and Leadership-Supportive
Our approach recognizes that relational harm affects people differently and that leaders often carry the weight of complex decisions.
Training is designed to:
Reduce fear and confusion around difficult conversations
Support leaders rather than overwhelm them
Avoid shame-based or fear-driven responses
Prioritize safety while maintaining dignity
This allows leaders to respond with confidence rather than avoidance.
Accountability That Leads to Change
Addressing harm requires more than awareness or care alone.
REAL Relationships helps communities develop clear accountability pathways that:
Name harmful behavior without labeling or public shaming
Place responsibility on the person causing harm
Establish clear expectations and boundaries
Include mentoring, oversight, and follow-through
Measure change by behavior, not promises
Accountability is not punishment—it is a necessary structure for transformation.
Supporting All Involved—Without Enabling Harm
Our approach holds two truths at the same time:
Those who are harmed deserve protection, support, and voice
Those who cause harm must be confronted with clarity and responsibility
We do not rush reconciliation, minimize impact, or use spiritual language to bypass accountability. Healing happens when safety, truth, and responsibility are held together